Disturbing as they are in real life, harassment and sexism towards women have extended online as another face of one ugly coin. Certainly it comes as no surprise to note or learn that women online face problems unique to the fact that they are women, aside from the ones they already share with their male counterparts.
Via Salon.com, I read a story about renowned blogger Kathy Sierra who runs a blog called Creating Passionate Users, and who is suffering from a mass-cyber-attack staged by a group of misogynist perverts.
The story on Kathy Sierra, written under the title Men who hate women on the Web, is a narration of the blogger’s ordeal now that is she is targeted by an army of people that hate her simply for being a woman, and make no secret of it.
Drawing on my own experience online and on the stalking episode I previously mentioned, it is now even more evident to me how women are discriminated against online (as well as offline). The very nature of the discourse with a woman in a chat room is significantly different from that with a man (I played being both). It follows logically that women are targeted in different ways than men and that, often, attacks against women take a sexual-violent nature.
Take for example the Kathy Sierra case; she has had someone post this on her blog: “fuck off you boring slut… i hope someone slits your throat and cums down your gob.” Later on, famous bloggers took part in the “game” and comments poured in with crystal-clear threats of hanging Kathy, suffocating Kathy, beating Kathy, and sexually humiliating Kathy. Not to forget the photoshopped pictures of the blogger in dark-fetishistic situations.
So where does this leave us, women bloggers? In Kathy’s own words, she says
I do not want to be part of a culture–the Blogosphere–where this is considered acceptable. Where the price for being a blogger is Kevlar-coated skin and daughters who are tough enough to not have their “widdy biddy sensibilities offended” when they see their own mother Photoshopped into nothing more than an objectified sexual orifice, possibly suffocated as part of some sexual fetish.
In our conservative culture, everyone knows that any event of this type would escalate to a dangerous pitch. Simply put, Arab hackers probably first hunt for pictures on a girl’s PC, and then use them. Also, probably every woman blogger has received some sort of a threat, a special request, or a sexist remark. I know I have, and I know many who have received the same.
This issue at hand is not a single case. It is not about those “morally corrupt” American men who attacked a similarly “morally corrupt” American woman, as many men and women in cyber and real Arabia would quickly announce. This is not a phenomenon exclusive to a single society. This is a problem rooted deeply in our mentalities as people. Again I say, as people, not animals. Actually wait, I take that back. I never heard a male dog call a female dog “bitch.” My bad.
I am usually particularly offended by the men who think they have discovered a shortcut to heaven when they squeeze out the magical pseudo-solution “If women didn’t get that much exposure, then nothing would have happened.” What does a blogger like me do, according to these people? Crawl under a man-shaped shadow and wither? Go offline and write on papyrus?
Indeed, bad things are bound to happen, and they could happen to anyone. However, it is undeniable that when they happen to women, they are a lot worse. The social and psychological scars they leave are often irrecoverable. It’s technically “keeping women in their right place” principle that dictates this manifestation of a deeper social dysfunction.
Under the law, you (or any user in general) have the right to file a complaint to the police department about direct threats on the internet. (Thats American Federal law)<br /><br />Threatening people online is considered an offense that is punishable by the law. (Just like threatening people in real-life is also an offense)<br />
<p>I heard about this story too and it really is vile. </p>
<p>Most female bloggers I know I have had to turn comment moderation on their blogs at some point, especially the Muslim ones.</p>
<p>It is the misogynistic nature of the abuse that’s so disturbing. One persistant pest began by telling me to take of my hijab and get a nice haircut and then ended by calling me a "F**king whore", because that’s the mentality of these people. </p>
This kind of behavior is endemic in the "blogosphere." I’m reminded of an instance about a year ago in which a fairly prominent American conservative blogger and his child were threatened by a deranged academic who happens to reside in the same city I live in. In that case, the victim(s) were male and the psychopath was female.<br /><br />The internet has a strange way of allowing people drop their usual inhibitions — thanks to the veil of anonymity — and gives them an opportunity to say things that they’d never in a million years say to someone’s face, if not because of social decorum than for fear of walking away with a busted face.<br /><br />I imagine women face extra challenges in this area — your post seems to indicate as much. Calling someone a homosexual or posting comments filled with obscene language is a pretty superficial way of trying to insult someone, and that’s as far as it usually seems to go when male bloggers are involved. Photoshopped pictures, sexual innuendo, and not-so-subtle rape threats, however, are entirely more personal, and it’s rare that male bloggers are the target of those sorts of attacks.<br /><br />Sadly, there’s no easy solution, since the internet does grant anonymity. There’ll always be people like that out there, and it’s certain that they’ll end up posting on internet forums. No amount of social progress will change that. At some point, law enforcement has to get involved. <br />
I’m not so sure sexism and misogony is the biggest problem on the blogosphere. I’d say bigotry and racism is worse. And I’ve been threatened in blog comment sections. I’ve been threatened with lawsuits, and I’ve also been threatened by somebody who knew my real (full) name and where I live. And pointed it out, publicly. And I’m not a woman. The blogosphere is full of abusive people. The internet seems to attract people who are too inhibited to vent their rage against people in real life, but feel empowered to be abusive in online "anonymous" forums. It’s a problem. But waht is the solution?
I for one think that the voices of women especially in the Middle Eastern blogosphere are critically important. So if it takes kevlar skin to deflect the abuse, so be it. Turn on comment moderation and delete every offending bastard into oblivion. And if that is not enough, turn off comments altogether. But whatever you do, you should continue to make you voices heard.
<p>I’m female. Been blogging for a couple of years. A few very simple things have kept me from ever being "paranoid".</p>
<p>First off - "Near Chicago" is a pretty generic term. I look at the world around me, at the incredible number of people who live here - and realize that for someone to pick ME out from the millions of people who can say they live "Near Chicago" is unlikely in the extreme.</p>
<p>Secondly, I have created an "alternative identity" - complete with address and telephone number. The telephone number, not coincidently, is the same as a somewhat local police department. It’s a trick I learned in school for when guys just would NOT give up asking you for your phone number.</p>
<p>Finally - the amount of actual "personal" information I give out is minimal. I do not keep photos of myself on my computer, nor do I keep passwords or usernames - or, (can’t believe anyone WOULD) credit-card information!</p>
<p>Yes, someone could come to my blog and start leaving nasty messages. I do, however, check it several times daily, and I just delete anything that is inappropriate. Eventually they learn that all they’re doing is wasting their time to type things, because once someone crosses "the line" with me, I’ll delete EVERYTHING they post - good, bad or indifferent.</p>
<p>I’m not particularly forgiving that way. It may be a fault, but I’m willing to take my chances on it.</p>
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Abu Kareem is right on the money. Hear, hear.
<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt">I can relate to every single word you wrote….i get loads of hatred e-mails & comments on some controversial posts & I’m really scared to open up & be myself on my spot…I feel afraid to reveal my name, post my pictures, etc…many Arab bloggers have been harassed by the legal authorities of their countries…its so disappointing ..i turned the comments off but decided to moderate them instead..we should have the courage to continue what started! </p>
<p>I’m often horrified by the way people behave online. I’ve had a number of nasty commenters during my blogging career (I was told several months ago that I was "spreading ideological AIDS", and this commenter left so many scary comments of a similar nature that I felt forced to start moderating comments until he/she finally disappeared). I had another situation where it got so bad that I almost stopped blogging.</p>
<p>This was a great blog entry, and so important. Keep it up.</p>