Well of Loneliness, 1943
Carl Kahl
What do you do when your soul mates drift away?
Do you lull your melancholy with hopes of future quick, poor visits every now and then? Do you anxiously wait for them to be cloned, replaced by exact types to keep you company when it rains and you’re hungry? Do you propose unnecessary plans just so you can bask in the memories only they share with you? Do you sit alone and get acquainted with yourself, and miss them all the same? Do you secretly wish they would not go away to a distant land, to the arms of a lover, and wish they remain yours forever?
What do you do, what can you do that is not in vain? Tell me.
You miss them! What sucks more, is to miss them when they’re right there, when they’re present and absent at the same time.<br /><br />You miss them and it hurts and you live through the hurt and you hope that one day in the future you’ll just remember the beautiful memories and not the awkward painful moments of the transition that followed!<br />
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<p>Cannot agree more with Lina! She has put it beautifully.</p>
<p><em><strong>Do you anxiously wait for them to be cloned, replaced by exact types to keep you company when it rains and you’re hungry?</strong></em> </p>
<p>Every new acquaintance that come your way kindle hopes of finding the soul mate who has drifted away in them. Cloning them great idea if soul mates happen as a result of design and not chance!</p>
<p><em><strong>Do you propose unnecessary plans just so you can bask in the memories only they share with you?</strong></em> </p>
<p>Oh yeah! <font face="Wingdings">J</font> . IT happens, one does tend to drift into that make believe world.</p>
<p><strong><em>Do you sit alone and get acquainted with yourself, and miss them all the same?</em></strong> </p>
<p>This part is the most disconcerting one, but nevertheless this has to happen. Miss them? yeah, one sure does, but in a way it can be funny at times. </p>
<p>A case in point to illustrate; I have a soul mate who has drifted. She had confessed time and again that she loved to shop at V’s secret. I was at a mall recently with my sister and there it was right in front of us a new V’s Secret store opening. I was immediately reminded of my soul mate and I had a BIG smile on my face and no my sister and BIL did not miss my grin. I know what they thought! nevertheless, they know I am "good" perv.</p>
<p><strong><em>Do you secretly wish they would not go away to a distant land, to the arms of a lover, and wish they remain yours forever? </em></strong></p>
<p>Tricky one, if the soul mate in question was love interest, well then YES to the first and second part. If it was just a great friendship, NO to the first part and YES to the second part</p>
<p>The transition may not really be awkward or painful if the soul mate was just a great friend and not lover. I sometimes take the liberty of calling my soul mate and just let her know that I miss her and that either of us cannot be spared of our insanities and tantrums and that we defeat the very purpose of our creation to spared of each other ;-). If they are your soul mates you know to say the right thing at the right time.</p>
<p>Pray why do you ask? Do you have a drifting soul mate? Or are you someone who is going away to a distant land to the arms of a lover? As much as you seek, your readership seeks your point of view too <font face="Wingdings">J</font> </p>
<p>Stimulating post</p></font>
<p>I wish I had the answer!</p>
<p>Relationships are hard, long distance makes it harder; especially when you feel that it could be the one!</p>
I wish it was that easy, Lina. It’s really difficult to not try to do something about the rough transition. It’s sad.<br /><br />I do have a drifting soul mate, yes, Ameehb. That’s who I was thinking about when I wrote this post and that’s the person I miss already although she has not gone away yet.<br /><br />It’s really all in vain. What must be done must be done and there is nothing we can do about it, Sk8erboi.<br />
<p>i was really touched of what you wrote</p>
<p>i dont know what to say or feel you have always been my soul mate.. and i will never forget the days we spent together ..the happy times as well as the sad though they were afew… i will miss our madness and the fun things we used to do.. i freak out when i think that i will go away leaving all these memories behind me..</p>
<p>but know for sure that i will never forget any thing… thank you for being the friend in deed…</p>
<p>god bless you</p>
<p>your friend… mai</p>